How to Get the Girl of Your Dreams Without Any Tips, Tricks or Tactics

How to Get the Girl of Your Dreams Without Any Tips, Tricks or Tactics

By Jamie Matthewman
March 31st, 2016

One of man’s biggest quests, is to meet the girl of his dreams. It occupies our minds perhaps more than anything until the day we find the one who quells our desire to continue the search.

But as you may know, this quest can seem really complicated.

There’s a ton of advice on the internet about how to get the girl of your dreams such as creating a vision of your perfect partner, learning magic, how to dress to impress or taking a confidence to help you build confidence and charm women.

In my time I’ve explored numerous strategies I thought would help me meet the woman of my dreams, but on reflection they were never going to help me get what I wanted.

They might help you start a conversation and acquire another notch on the bed post but more often than not they give you too much to think about, so there’s a tendency to be too in your head wondering what to do or say next rather than being yourself and present with a girl.

So I’m suggesting what if meeting the kind of woman who’s going to knock you off your feet, blow your mind and leave you wondering how you got so damn lucky is way simpler than having to bother learning the latest dating technique?

Would you be interested?

What if all you have to do is stop striving so hard to be somebody else and start loving yourself like you want to be loved by a woman.

My belief is you have to fall into your own heart before you can expect a woman to really give you hers.

This may sound like bullshit, corny, new age stuff, but if you’re willing to here me out perhaps you’ll start to see that it’s actually fairly simple to meet the woman of your dreams.

I’m not saying it’s easy, because for a lot of men REALLY feeling OK with themselves and their life just as it is, without believing they need to add more i.e. money, fancy clothes, a high status job to be attractive to women, is alien.

I am not suggesting dressing well, having a great physique, having plenty of cash in the bank or excelling in life isn’t attractive to women it is, but for men it can often be a cover up for insecurity.

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The problem with trying to make yourself look like “a somebody” is it can become a charade, because even with all the things you believe will impress the woman of your dreams, the feelings of insecurity remain.

You might think you’ve covered them up with money and fancy clothes, but its likely you’ll end up with women who feel the same way you do, which is unlikely to be the recipe for a blissful relationship.

The women you meet, as a rule of thumb are a reflection of the man you think you are, irrespective of how much stuff you have or how much you try to be someone other than yourself.

Trying to be “a somebody” is the problem with most dating advice, which often dictates you need more than you are to succeed with women.

If you put your faith in a trick or a tool to do the job for you, without putting in the work of becoming totally comfortable with who you are, you’ll always look to other people’s strategies because you don’t think you’ve got what it takes.

It becomes a trap.

The point of dating and relationships is to deeply connect with the woman you’re with, which only happens when you’re OK being you without any acting or pretending.

So my advice if you want to meet the woman of your dreams is to stop your quest to be “a somebody”. Instead accept who you are right now.

I am not saying give up on your goals, buying nice clothes or going to the gym, but stop striving to be more…you’re already enough.

You already have everything you need to be to meet the woman of your dreams and achieve whatever ignites your soul.

When you see this you can stop the hunt.

Make fun, enjoyment and following your passions the priority because I guarantee that If you’re coming from a place of love and appreciation for yourself, meeting the woman of your dreams will take care of itself.

Superficial efforts will merely get in the way of who you are; that’s what the woman of your dreams will really wants to see.

Bearing all this in mind, how would you show up in the world if you already knew you had all you needed to meet the woman of your dreams and create the kind of life you want?

Jamie Matthewman

About Jamie Matthewman

Jamie is the founder, main contributor and editor of The Inspired Man.

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