You’re OK Man!

You’re OK Man!

By Jamie Matthewman
April 29th, 2015

As I hope you’re noticing, one of the core messages at The Inspired Man is about becoming REALLY OK with who you are. Not just playing at it, but totally embracing YOU, warts and all.


Because the term ‘accepting yourself’ unfortunately isn’t the usual kind of thing you’ll read about in a men’s magazine. I think for most editors it would be deemed a no go area, but it shouldn’t be because it’s one of the most important life lessons men can learn.

The fluff that’s in most men’s publications will rarely ask you to go deep (at least not in this way!) and inquire into the true nature of who you REALLY are. But the thing is if you never start looking, you could spend a lifetime pursuing ‘things’ in an attempt to satisfy your ego’s imagined inadequacies such as the perfect body, the woman of your dreams (or any woman!), a big bank balance, a high flying career etc etc but never ever feeling satisfied.

Or you’ll give up on life, becoming a passive spectator never believing you’re capable of having what you want, so you’ll resign yourself to settle for scraps and morsels, when the truth of the matter is – you already have everything you need to create the kind of life you want.

You don’t need anything external to feel OK with who you are and what you have. You don’t need a bigger dick, to be a Casanova or the alpha male, wrestle with lions, learn how to fight or any other advice you might have read about what it means to be a real man.

You don’t even need a woman to be happy or in fact any of the other messages I see that derail and devalue who you already are.

That’s not to say you wouldn’t want a 6 pack or a physique of a gladiator or become a great martial artist, meet the girl of your dreams or in fact find a couple more inches in your pants. I am all for that, but here’s the problem – if you believe any of those are the answer to your malaise, discontent or unhappiness with who you are deluded.

I’m not suggesting you give up on your goals, in fact I urge you to aim for the finer things in life – never settle. Make it your mission to hone your body and enjoy life but the riches you really need to discover are those that lay beneath any story you might have about not being enough.

If you’re chasing ideals because you think you’re lacking, you’re going to be really really disappointed when the thing you’ve been pursuing so hard, turns out to be a facade created by an egoic conspiracy that’s had you thinking it’s the answer to your prayers.

You might get a short term buzz but in the end when it fades, you’re left alone with that limited story about who you think you are, which will continually have you chasing to fill up a gap that doesn’t exist. This is the only thing that’s ever going to get in your way and stop you from seeing the truth of who you really are.

I wish you well on this quest, it’s important, perhaps the most vital mission any man really has.

Jamie Matthewman

About Jamie Matthewman

Jamie is the founder, main contributor and editor of The Inspired Man.

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